Category: Advice

New Year, New Relationships


Imagine transforming your outlook about all of your interactions. What if, for 2018, or any new year, you reassessed not who brings you joy, pain, sorrow, or excitement, but who you bring joy, pain, sorrow, and excitement to? I’m talking about personal accountability and making amends, two of the most difficult lessons of maturity. Read More

8 ways to actually keep you happy


The familiar saying of ‘nature versus nurture’ applies to keeping our happiness at the levels we want. While it is true that 50 percent of our happiness is rooted in our genetics, about the same amount of our happiness comes from our own intentional activities—that is, 40 percent. We have 40 percent control over our own happiness, more than we might think. So, what can you do to actually keep you happy? Read More

So you want to be an activist? Here are 5 things you need to start doing now


The last few weeks have been exhausting, to say the least. As someone who never thought we would get to the point of an actual Muslim, refugee and immigrant ban, I’m both physically and mentally drained. At times, I feel energized and ready to do whatever I can as a citizen to fight the new and dangerous orders. Other times, I feel completely overwhelmed with just how much damage has already been done. Read More

7 Tips to elevate you when you feel the blues


For those of you who have felt down recently — whether about your job, yourself or your circumstances in life in general — remember there is always hope for a brighter and happier future. We can’t always explain why a sudden challenge may force us into difficulty, whether emotionally or physically, however there are tricks to feeling better immediately and for the long run. Read More

Finding the beauty in broken


Growing up, we’re taught to count our blessings, that no matter where we stand, we’re still more fortunate than someone else in the world. Everyone to a certain extent is grateful for their family, their great friends, a roof over their head, the food on the table, good health etc, but that list is so generic it no longer holds any merit. It’s easy to appreciate the things we’ve been given when life is going well, but how thankful are we when things get taken away from us? How much do we appreciate our heart breaks and downfalls?

Everyone reaches a point in their life where they regret all the poor decisions they’ve made. They want to take back the time they wasted with the wrong people, the time they didn’t give to the right people, the trust they gave to those who didn’t deserve it,  the years spent chasing a fruitless ambition only to reach a dead end. But what we fail to recognize is that no experience is a waste of time.  Your past, both good and bad, has built you into the person you are today. Celebrate the wisdom your downfalls gave you. Remember that the only power your past should hold is the power to turn you into something better than you were before.

No experience is a waste of time.

Be grateful for your struggles, they gave you your strength.

Be grateful for every moment in life that pushed you down to your knees, it taught you how to stand.

Be grateful for every person who wronged you, they helped you appreciate the people who never did.

We think the purpose of life is to figure out its mystery, but the truth is there is nothing to solve. Things fall apart, then come back together and each storm that destroys you holds a lesson. The point of life isn’t to try to figure out the key to your happily ever after, nor is it to make your heart so hard that nothing can break you. The point is to learn to rise from the ashes every time you get burned. Something beautiful happens when someone’s world shatters, a humility rises out of it. And sometimes when life brings a person to their knees, they learn how to bow down and pray. Your character when you hit rock bottom reveals a lot about who you are. Don’t run away from that, embrace it.

Just when you learn to admire the beauty of the sunset, it leaves you. But learn to love the darkness as well, because it’s the darkness that teaches you the value of the sunrise it brings.

17 Hajj essentials to pack in your bag


As one of the world’s largest gatherings each year, Hajj or the annual pilgrimage to Mecca is incredibly physically, spiritually and mentally exhausting. However, it is also one of the most rewarding, if not the most rewarding experience you will have gone through in your lifetime.

Preparing for any trip is difficult and anxiety-inducing, so we can imagine just how strenuous packing for unknown conditions in that heat of Saudi Arabia. But fret no more, we have come up with the perfect packing list all ready for you. A packing list makes any kind of travel a little easier, so if that’s what it takes to make your Hajj experience more spiritual and less mind-consuming, then let’s get to it.

Note that there are specific restrictions when you are in the state of ihram, or whefeatn you have made the intention to perform the Hajj. For example, you cannot lather on anything that is scented and there is no clipping, cutting, or shaving of hair allowed.

Without further ado, here’s a list of the perfect essentials to bring with you on your journey to Mecca.

  1. Unscented hand sanitizer and/or sanitizing wipes
  2. 2-3 lightweight abayas
  3. Light jersey scarves (we love these)
  4. Umbrella (for when sun just won’t quit)
  5. Extra hair ties (you can never have enough)
  6. Comfortable shoes (you’ll be walking A LOT)
  7. Fanny pack for all of your items you cannot leave behind like money, passports, etc. (And yes, there is such a thing as a cute fanny pack)
  8. Tissues
  9. First Aid Kit (and don’t forget the Advil)
  10. Face towel
  11. Unscented face moisturizer/sunscreen
  12. Prayer rug
  13. Quran and any other duaa, or supplication, books you want to bring along
  14. Eye drops (if you wear contacts, you’ll thank me later)
  15. Personal fan
  16. Protein bars
  17. List of all the personalized duaa you want to make for friends and family (you’ll want to have this handy either in your phone or on a sheet of paper you can carry around)

You can even personalize this list, adding some of your own essentials for Hajj. And there you have it, folks. Enjoy this life-changing experience and make sure keep us in your duaas!


5 ways to conquer your fears in order to succeed


How often do you find yourself facing a negative thought or emotion—be it worry, fear, guilt, shame or any negative emotion—and you can’t seem to shake it off? You may be thinking: The struggle is real. Whether you’re facing a difficult day, month, year or set of years, the ability to conquer your fears may often seem daunting or missing. Read More