Breaking cultural barriers through marriage seems to be the new boogie monster. It is a deviance that is often spoken about but almost rarely executed. Tales of being disowned, dishonored, and doomed are oftentimes the climactic focus of such unorthodox behavior. Undeniably, such horrific tales do evidently exist, however the outcome is not always so disastrous.
Growing up, we’re taught to count our blessings, that no matter where we stand, we’re still more fortunate than someone else in the world. Everyone to a certain extent is grateful for their family, their great friends, a roof over their head, the food on the table, good health etc, but that list is so generic it no longer holds any merit. It’s easy to appreciate the things we’ve been given when life is going well, but how thankful are we when things get taken away from us? How much do we appreciate our heart breaks and downfalls?
Everyone reaches a point in their life where they regret all the poor decisions they’ve made. They want to take back the time they wasted with the wrong people, the time they didn’t give to the right people, the trust they gave to those who didn’t deserve it, the years spent chasing a fruitless ambition only to reach a dead end. But what we fail to recognize is that no experience is a waste of time. Your past, both good and bad, has built you into the person you are today. Celebrate the wisdom your downfalls gave you. Remember that the only power your past should hold is the power to turn you into something better than you were before.
No experience is a waste of time.
Be grateful for your struggles, they gave you your strength.
Be grateful for every moment in life that pushed you down to your knees, it taught you how to stand.
Be grateful for every person who wronged you, they helped you appreciate the people who never did.
We think the purpose of life is to figure out its mystery, but the truth is there is nothing to solve. Things fall apart, then come back together and each storm that destroys you holds a lesson. The point of life isn’t to try to figure out the key to your happily ever after, nor is it to make your heart so hard that nothing can break you. The point is to learn to rise from the ashes every time you get burned. Something beautiful happens when someone’s world shatters, a humility rises out of it. And sometimes when life brings a person to their knees, they learn how to bow down and pray. Your character when you hit rock bottom reveals a lot about who you are. Don’t run away from that, embrace it.
Just when you learn to admire the beauty of the sunset, it leaves you. But learn to love the darkness as well, because it’s the darkness that teaches you the value of the sunrise it brings.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. National organizations dedicate this month to raising awareness about domestic violence and abuse, and bringing together survivors to encourage people to break the cycle and seek help.
Four days after my grandfather passed away, I watched “Batman v. Superman” in a futile attempt to distract myself from the reality of my sadness. As the screen flashed with images of Batman and Superman battling it out across Gotham City and Metropolis, my mind wandered. Straying from my own thoughts of how wonderful they both looked on screen, I began to think of our unyielding mortality. Read More
Somewhere right now, there is a mother scolding her daughter about staying out too late at night. In the same household, a son comes home at 4 a.m. with little to no repercussions. Read More
What’s the secret to happiness? According to the longest study on the topic, it’s your relationships. Read More
As we’re well into the new year, I find myself looking back on several relationships which have ultimately changed my life (for the better, I think), one of them being my first and oldest friendship.
Move over matrimonial websites, the most recent way for single Muslims to meet is through marriage apps Read More
An open letter to Muslim girls about why mothers make the best of friends. Read More
We keep our friends close and our gadgets closer, and yet some of us still have problems staying in touch with loved ones.